YOU, YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND SUCCESS-2

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In this second part we will look at the manifestations/signs of a low self esteem, and how to solve the problem.
Talking about the manifestations of a low esteem, it can manifest in so many ways, through words and actions, in the making of choices in the person’s emotions etc, .Emotionally speaking, there are feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, guilt, self blame and so on and so forth. Such individuals interpret a minor failing on their part as a sign of incompetence, or interpret a minor criticism as condemnation.
Often times a very low self esteem is a symptom of depression or could be associated with it. Certain activities that may have taken place in the life of such individuals combine to produce feelings of emotional and or spiritual death, example: - sexual abuse and sexual pervasions, drug abuse and criminal activities, and so on. Where major depression is involved, there may be a desire or an urge to end one’s life, i.e. suicide.
There may also be feelings of ugliness, and the mirror reflects someone ugly and repulsive .Even a very decent person, may feel deficient, cruel, stupid, phony or guilty of having deceived others.
Apart from these emotional manifestations, there are negative words and confessions, this person uses such terms as: poor me, a bad person like me, what do I have that I should…, I am not as rich, I am not as beautiful as, I have no University or maybe college education or degree, I am not going to last because of my illness so there is no need to….
When it comes to making choices in life, this person makes poor choices or low choices or of low quality. These people cannot aim high because they don’t believe that they are qualified for the good things of life. Thus they choose the little things, the small jobs, working for others, the poor and low and the ugly as life partners or friends. We ought to have a large heart that accommodates and loves everyone and anyone, and accepts and cherishes other people, no matter their class, but people with a low self esteem, feel easily intimidated, the moment they come into contact with the so called-rich ;powerful; beautiful; educated ;white-skin or some other color, depending on what they think they don’t have

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